Losing someone we love is always hard, even harder if the experience is related to losing a child. Sadly, Chrissy Teigen experienced this last year when she had a miscarriage and lost her child, Jack Stephens when she was in the second trimester of pregnancy.
The American model and her husband, American singer John Legend shared the news on their social media when it happened and while many people empathized with them, apparently Legend hated it for two reasons: because he was under such scrutiny and because Teigen gave him the duty to take photographs of the experience.
"He hated it. I could tell. It didn’t make sense to him at the time," Chrissy Teigen wrote in an essay weeks later after experiencing the miscarriage, later explaining that she needed the pictures to remember the moment forever, the same way the model needed to remember their tears of joy after the birth of their other kids and because she knew she needed to share her story. "I cannot express how little I care that you hate the photos. How little I care that it’s something you wouldn’t have done," Chrissy Teigen wrote. "I lived it, I chose to do it, and more than anything, these photos aren’t for anyone but the people who have lived this or are curious enough to wonder what something like this is like. These photos are only for the people who need them. The thoughts of others do not matter to me."
Now, although he has not spoken about all of this in the past, John Legend recently declared that despite hating it, now he understands Chrissy's reaction and learned that this happens to so many other families around the world that by sharing it, they felt a real sense of community.
The singer also revealed though he was initially skeptical of the move, now sees his wife made the right choice because sharing their grief helped so many others. . "I am so glad Chrissy's instinct was to share this because it was really the right thing to do. It helped us get through it, and I think it helped other families who are going through the same thing get through it," he continued. "People feel such shame and they feel lonely, and I think we helped people feel less lonely."
Legend also declared he felt bad about their grief being so public because the joy they shared was also public. “The worst part is knowing there are so many women that won’t get these quiet moments of joy from strangers.” Then, he urged people to share their own stories and to be kind to those “pouring their heart out.”